Sunday, 20 December 2009

Merry Christmas Everyone

Thinking back to the start of 2009, I remember feeling a bit anxious about what the year might hold for us (me and my family). I looked back to 4 January and found I had written "I have to admit to a certain amount of trepidation when I look forward to the year ahead, not a feeling I usually experience".

For my son in Australia it has been his "annus horribilus". He has had health and sight problems, was out of work for a while which, in turn, obviously, caused financial concerns and his beloved dog died. On top of that, his wife has said that she no longer wants to stay in Australia, wishing to come back to UK to live and be near her family. I kept in close touch, either by telephone or via the web-cam but it was apparent that he was getting lower and lower in spirits. So what to do? Stay here and unpack, settle in and worry about how the family were doing, so far away, or go and see them.

We had had a difficult year for various reasons including the house sale and purchase of our new home and all that that entailed and I just wanted to be able to move in and get unpacked and prepare for Christmas. We had planned that in January 2010 we would travel to Australia and New Zealand, take our time over it and visit both families there. I didn't want to go to Australia before that but I am so pleased that we took the decision that we did. I left on 8 November and booked a flight for OH to follow me 2 weeks later. My son was very low and at times quite emotional when I arrived but we talked at some length over the first two weeks and I persuaded him to at least go and talk to his doctor about he was feeling. By the time OH arrived he was 100% in better spirits and we spent time together most evenings.

It was lovely to see our grandchildren of course, they are all beautiful. Our eldest grandson is 9 and a lovely natured boy, full of smiles. Our 6 year old grandaughter is more outgoing and very competative. The youngest, 15 month old Matthew is a real handful. Into everything and very outgoing and confident. Also full of smiles.

We enjoyed our time with them and left them preparing for Christmas in much better spirits than when we got there. We didn't do anything except listen and just "be there for them". The telephone is marvellous but there are times when it just won't do. I suppose we could have stayed for Christmas but we had already committed ourselves to family back here and anyway we really did want to get back to our new home.

I think it almost certain that they will be coming back to the UK and for good. Son is certainly viewing it from a more positive stance now although we feel that they would do better to stay put or, at the very least, come for a holiday before final decisions are made. Never thought I would actually say that, heartbroken as I was when they first went there.

I'm very lucky in that I have few health problems but back in September began experiencing dizzy spells and occasionally thought I might black out. A bit disconcerting so I booked to have my blood pressure checked, but through some sort of communication problem it didn't happen so I just went off to Australia thinking I would deal with it on my return. Had another dizzy spell and "black out" on the flight over and again a few days later so then I went to see a doctor. It seems that my BP is too high so had to begin taking the necessary medication and saw my own GP on my return. BP is coming down now and I feel fine again, no more dizziness or blackness!

So we are settling into our new home. We love it and are looking forward to our first Christmas here. The tree is decorated with "the shepherd" (made by my son at school when he was about 5 years old) stood beneath it, as usual - see below.

Our daughter and grandaughter are coming down from Sratford on Avon to be with us and on Christmas Day my mother and OH's aunt and uncle will join us. Other family members will pop in on "the day" and we will catch up with friends during the Christmas Season.

I am trying to get up to date with blogging friends and will do that over the next week or so. Having had our old computer "die" on us I am still trying to get to grips with a new system. I have only JUST worked out how to put photographs on my posts but it may be a while before I can show you the view from our windows or take part in any of the memes. I have managed a Christmas photo though.

Thank you so much to all of you who have left kind and supportive comments, if I haven't already been in to see you, I will do so in the near future.

In the meantime I would like to wish you all a very happy and peaceful Christmas and sincerely hope that 2010 will be a good year for you.


Ladybird World Mother said...

And a very happy and peaceful one to you too, Anne! Have loved visiting you this year... and will look forward to doing so in 2010!! Much love. xxx

Pam said...

Hi Anne,
What a year you had a what a wonderful mother you are to give support to your son like you did. He's a lucky man. I really hope things work out for them. I get terribly homesick too and could easily move back if we could afford it, even though everyone tells us to stay. Missing your family is just the worst.
Anyway, welcome to your new home and I hope you have a lovely Christmas. Lots of Love, Pam xxx

Gill - That British Woman said...

wishing you and your family all the best of luck, love and health in 2010.

Gill in Canada

Angie said...

Seasons greetings from West Oz.Hope everything works out well next year.

jabblog said...

Goodness, you have had a roller-coaster of a year so I hope 2010 will be calmer for you. Enjoy your new house first Christmas. t

rosiero said...

Happy Christmas to you too. I thought I was chasing my tail, but a house move AND an emergency trip to Australia just before Christmas puts me in the shade!!

Mary said...

It's good to hear from you again and it sounds like you have had an eventful year with much family business to take care of. I understand because our past year has been one of ups and downs, also. Gets in the way of blogging for sure :-) I'm glad both you and your son are better now and hope they make the right decision for their future happiness. Have a Merry Christmas and a better New Year!

Denise said...

Hi Anne, what a year you've had. As mother's we feel it quite badly when our children are having a tough time. So glad your son is feeling better now and maybe his coming home will be the best thing for him. At least he will have you there whenever he needs to chat. Yes phones are wonderful but it's not the same thing as you say. I'm glad you got your bp taken care of too. You all will be very much in my thoughts and I wish you all A Merry Christmas and A Very Happy New Year. May 2010 be full of joy.

Gilly said...

Have a really good Christmas, with good health and happiness for 2010. X

Hadriana's Treasures said...

Hi SJA! As always thank you for your very supportive and great comments over at my blog. As you know it's been an "annus horribilis" for us too. I'm really hoping that next year comes through for you, your son and all of us!

Love the tree and I would like to wish you and your family all the very best for Christmas and the New Year 2010.... Hadriana xx

joo said...

Dear Anne, let me wish you and your family beautiful, peaceful and relaxinf Christmas.


I was just thinking about you today and planning on popping over to wish you a merry Christmas, so what a lovely surprise to se that you'd already popped over to my blog to say hello. Hope you have a lovely Christmas in your new home and that next year goes by without a worry. Lots of love, Karen xmi

JJ said...

Looks as if 2010 will start on a much more positive note for you all.
Best wishes from me to you and yours for a very happy new year

Gill - That British Woman said...

Happy New Year to you and your family, and hope this year is a whole lot better for you all..

Gill in Canada